Beware of other peoples stories

Do you have a good imagination, so good that you can picture other people’s stories ? Are you really good at feeling what others have been through? 

I know this is the case for me & lots of the women I work with. Today was the perfect example of how this super power can bite you. 

As you may know I’m currently in the 3rd trimester with my 3rd baby. I have two gorgeous boys already and I don’t know if this baby is a boy or a girl. Today a well meaning person whom I don’t know that well asked me outright if I would be disappointed if we have another boy. She was completely open & honest and shared that she had felt disappointed with her 3rd boy. That must have been hard to share for her, but I have to say I was a little taken back with her question. 

Before I decided to have another baby I’d spent time making sure I was totally open to which ever perfect gift I get given. But for that moment I was swept up into her story. I was her in the hospital feeling those feelings. It triggered me. It made me question my own feelings... it shook me up into a state of panic.. until I realised this is her stuff... it’s not mine. My experience will never be exactly the same as hers or anyone else’s. I’m me and what ever feelings I have are unique to me. My experience will be unique to me! 

So the moral of this story is ... notice when you are getting swept along with feelings or experiences that don’t belong to you. Don’t let your imagination drag you off to a negative situation that hasn’t even happened. 

When you feel this happening. Say to yourself ‘not mine’ in your head and remember stay in the present moment 

The future’s not ours to see - Que Sera Sera - what will be will be.